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Lesson 4

 Family has the ability to hurt you even family you hardly know.

I have a grand-daughter (GD#2) who is expecting a child, a little girl, my first great-grandchild. This GD and her father have a stormy relationship and so we have interacted rarely. She has grown into a right prissy miss and though I have tried to keep the communication lines open it hasn't worked out well.

Three days ago she IM'ed me to see if I had ordered some fancy-dancy baby sling she wanted. Her father apparently said I had. I was supposed to but I forgot so it didn't get bought. She accused her father of lying and said something about communication.

I told her she could always get herself a cheaper version. I made reference to her pulling up her bra straps and doing things for herself. She went off the cliff in a rather childish way. She blocked everyone with the last name Marois including her great-aunts and their daughters citing for her reason that we were all toxic.

That was something I was more or less expecting, she has been looking for a reason to cut us out of her life for awhile now. What saddened me is the fact that she turned baby momma #3 (mother of my youngest grandchild) against us as well. 

I only learned about this grandchild two years ago and have only seen her once. It hurts that because of the vindictiveness of GD#2 I will never get a chance to get to know GD#5 at all.

Luckily for me, I have a niece that has a little boy and is expecting another baby in the near future to substitute for them if I so choose. They are close in age to the ones I've lost so it isn't a big stretch. And if my niece has a little girl that will make it perfect.

I mourn the loss of those two babies but I am a survivor and it is what it is, I will persevere and adapt.

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