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Living in the Cracks

Have you ever noticed how dandelions and other weeds grow anywhere including cracks in the sidewalk or path? They are survivours and so are you!

One or two of my readers I'm sure have to have lived in a nightmare at least part of their lives be it an abusive home or an abusive spouse or an addiction that nearly killed you. Yet here you are still living and maybe unknown to you strong because you lived through it and left it behind.

One of the things I have learned is that as bad as I think my life was others had it far worse AND THEY ARE STILL STRONG, STILL LIVING LIFE. They are examples to me that even the worse life period can be survived.

Oh maybe not well but still here & still going strong! If you are one of the many who have not escaped your hell on earth remember others have and so can you. It comes down to self-preservation either physical or mental, our need to live just a while longer.

Sometimes like the Professor, it takes a life-threatening illness to make self-preservation kick in. Sometimes like me, it takes a number of things but ultimately comes down to, I want to live to see...

And sometimes it is a decision that you don't want to be where you are and you become determined to change it. All of this is a form of self-preservation and all of us have some form of it. It just seems like the task of getting out of your hell is impossible but it really isn't.

Remember you are the one with the final say about everything in your life from the time you need to wake up to the time you use the bathroom for a number two.

Your body and mind and emotions are unique to you and no one has the right to tell you what to do once you reach 18, no one!

Don't get me wrong this doesn't give you license to break laws but it does give you the right to decide for yourself if that is something you need to do.

Stay strong!


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