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Becoming Body Positive

PhotoBody Image ReMix: said, “No one will love you more than you love yourself. To have true love, you have to love yourself first.”
 
A positive body image means having unconditional self-love and compassion for yourself.

Self-love is about knowing ourselves, showing up as ourselves, and treating ourselves with trust, respect, and kindness.

the definition of love from one of my heroes, BrenĂ© Brown, as written in The Gifts of Imperfection. It defines love perfectly for the purposes of this conversation:  “We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honour the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection. Love is not something we give or get, it’s something we nurture and grow—a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them. We can only love others as much as we love ourselves. Shame, blame, disrespect, and betrayal damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed, and rare.”

Unconditional Your body image should never be conditional on your appearance, how many calories you’ve burned, or how many compliments you’ve received.

Compassion having positive body image is less about having confidence and more about having compassion.

What you struggle with is the negative voice in your head that is telling you there is something wrong with you. Changing your body is not going to make that go away.


Journal Questions: What conditions have you put on loving your body? What are the various things you have done to achieve a different appearance?  What beliefs do you want to have about loving yourself?

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