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Begin With the End In Mind

If you have read the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey then you will recognize that statement, if not that's OK. It is actually Step 2 in his habits list right after Be Proactive.

I've been reading the book as part of my attempt to broaden my mind and thought it was a rather appropriate subject for December since many of us will be reviewing the last year and preparing for the new one as 2019 approaches. Only 21 days left in 2018 and 14 of those are taken up by preparation for Christmas. It's absurd that we go through all this preparation for one day out of 365 but ...

Back on topic. The first thing this chapter in the book asks you to do is to picture your funeral in say three years time and the people who will attend. Further, four of those people get up and speak about you and your influence in their lives. One from your family, one from your friends, one from your work and one from a church or community association you belong to. What will they say about you?

Then go back over the same scenario and think about what you would like them to say about you? Getting from where you are to where you want to be is what this habit is about. Its based on the premise that all things are created twice; once in your mind and then physically.

He suggests that you start by defining your values and your current roles then create a personal mission statement. This is what I am working on this month. Figuring out my values wasn't hard because I used an online quiz to help me.  I forgot to write down which one I used so here are three for you to check out for yourself:

Psychology Today: Values Profile
Mind Coolness: Find Your Core Values
Find Your Values

Defining your current life roles is a little bit harder because beyond the Mother, Father, Work title roles we don't consciously think about them we only do them. I found several articles and worksheets to help me define them but none of them seemed quite right. Finally, I chose an example from Life Coach Bloggers.

That's as far as I've gotten. I'll be working on the mission statement over the next few days. I am hoping it will get me pointed in the right direction for 2019. Maybe you will work along with me.


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